Being Adopted



Adoptees are the most neglected "minority" since we can't be classified by our skin color, our language, our national origin, our religion, our gender, or our sexual practices. Nor can we be manipulated as a voting block. We barely exist in most people's eyes.

I'm not trying to be insensitive to any person that feels discriminated against, but adoptees don't even have our personhood. We had that taken from us. We've had to live in or create a delusion all our lives.

While racism affects a person's outward reception and often robs the victim of dignity, being an adoptee victimized us to the core and robs us of our origin and heritage. Most people don't understand that when they see us going about our lives living. They think it's no big deal and are often surprised to find out that we're adopted.

If you are an adoptee and haven't felt like this, I submit you have done a good job of living within the delusion. But I don't fault anyone. We all do what we must to survive.

Many of us adoptees simply choose/develop/have thrust upon us an identity that has no basis on our origin/heritage and then we just live out that delusion. And yes, delusions can be happy ("ignorance is bliss"). If/when an adoptee has that reunion experience or an ah-ha moment of realizing just how alone in the world we have been, it can be earth shattering.


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